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Rohit Kaliyar

Why Has Sex Become So Important?

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How is it possible to meet the sexual demand intelligently and not turn it into a problem? Now, what do we mean by sex? The purely physical act, or the thought that excites, stimulates, furthers that act?… Why is it that sex has become such a problem in our lives?…

Sex is a problem because it would seem that in the act there is complete absence of the self. In that moment you are happy because there is the cessation of self-consciousness, of the ‘me’, and desiring more of it—more of the abnegation of the self in which there is complete happiness through full fusion, integration—naturally it becomes all-important. Isn’t that so? Because it is something that gives me unadulterated joy, complete self-forgetfulness, I want more and more of it. Now, why do I want more of it? Because, everywhere else I am in conflict….In all our relationships with property, with people, with ideas there is conflict, pain, struggle, misery…. Naturally you want more of it because it gives you happiness, while all the rest leads you to misery…

So, the problem is not sex, surely, but how to be free from the self. You have tasted that state of being in which the self is not, if only for a few seconds, if only for a day,…so there is the constant longing for more of that self-free state…

Until you resolve the whole content of that conflict, this one release of the self, through sex, will remain a hideous problem…

Jiddu Krishnamurti

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